Less absurd in Japan. Different culture.
The thing you have to remember is that YOU grew up in a western civilization where individualism is a thing, especially in America. You are told that you are awesome, and if you think the world sucks you should go out there and change it.
If you grew up in an English speaking country, your language is even inherently egalitarian. Which is to say that you talk to your dog with the same words that you talk to the president. Everyone is treated equally by the language you use, and that's actually really important for how people and the culture develops.
Japan, like many Asian countries, is culturally collectivist. The needs of the group are more important than you as an individual. You are not told you are awesome, you are told that your job is to suffer in silence. "It can't be helped." THAT'S what the fucking phrase that shows up again and again in anime means: your job isn't to change things, your job is to accept them and not make a big fuss over it. This is a large part of why Japan fucking sucks at mental health problems, because asking for psychological care is seen as equivalent to going out into the street and begging random strangers to wash your shit covered hands for you, because you are so fucking incompetent you can't take care of yourself. This explains a lot about their suicide rates.
On top of that, the Japanese language is absurdly formal. Talking to someone below you in status and talking to someone above you are almost two unrelated languages, which further drives home the 'know your place' culture because using the wrong honorifics is insulting your boss or coming off like a fucking asshole to your friends.