>>94679528That wasn't really bait. I didn't mean to demean either gender, I was just pointing out how they generally speaking work differently. How men tend to approach hobbies with a more methodical approach and go deeper in them, and tend to like talking about these subjects, while women are interested in socializing first and foremost, with the hobbies and other interests being more a means to that.
There are exceptions, obviously, and since it's based on stuff I noticed observing my male and female family members and friends, could be just that it's a coincidence in the group of people I know the divide between hobby-focused and social-focused people matches the genders. I was hoping to see if anyone provided either evidence of that or counter-points.
But yes, being focused on your hobbies to a point it's everything you can talk about is a problem when trying to interact with people. But there are more levels in between being completely shallow in your interests and being obsessed, I was talking in general terms, so people that don't fall into either extreme.
But since I've never really had a fixation like you describe I don't think I can offer you any decent advice on that.
There are things I'm knowledgeable about to autistic extents but I've never been focused enough on something I can't make small talk about whatever.
Only thing I can say is that usually it's less what interests in common you have and more how well your personalities hit off each other's that really matters when dating/socializing like that, but I know that doesn't help much in your case.
