>>125953971As someone who has known someone who is prone to panic attacks, I hope he is emotionally fulfilled and stable enough to carry someone else 24/7. Even if you are as gentle and patient as humanly possible, they will never stop apologizing or blaming themselves for "making you secretly hate them" to the point where you lie awake at night worried they'll kill themselves because you didn't say the right assurance. Even if you very calmly explain they cannot decide what you think, that you are in charge of your own feelings, and that you do not hate them, they will object, sometimes in a cold or accusatory way, like you are hurting them.
If you think keeping yourself healthy, mentally or otherwise, takes a lot of effort already, then you must not become their lifeboat or you'll both sink.
