>>122032326>There's a point where screaming at the people around you for not caring about you enough is counterproductive. This point is generally around the instant you actually start to do it.Agreed, but this chain isn't about defending Stamper's actions, just understanding his mindset.
I guess what I've been trying to illustrate from the start here is that I don't think anything Stamper says is coming from a place of malice, but from a deeply rooted sense of pain that he's soothed over the last 30 years of his life with substances and a not-unearned sense of pride in himself and his accomplishments, after all, we're all talking about him because we like what he's done, right?
>Yes, it'd make the world of difference to have an actual saint make that extraordinary gesture of self-sacrifice one your behalf, but the problem is that there aren't many of those people around and the odds of actually knowing one well is astronomical.It's really not always a matter of finding a saint, just finding someone who doesn't have the baggage to your problems that others might. Other abuse victims generally actually do this well for each other which is why they gravitate towards one another.
>At some point you have to be a realist and take some fucking responsibility, check yourself into a clinic, and be that wonderful, supportive person for yourself.That's sort of the problem here, people are suggesting things to him without actually knowing him in a meaningful way and he feels that they're patronizing because why would you know his problems better than he would?
There's no blanket solution for abuse, mine was distancing myself from the whole situation until the codger that got me was found out by someone else tattling, he killed himself before they could convict him so I guess the last laugh is mine.
Point is that Stamper seems to want people to not even bother trying if they're just going to give him cookie-cutter advise. Has anyone even asked him what help he wants?
