>>110778569No problem. I've been where you are, where you want to express your feelings, but you keep feeling like you're doing it wrong. I can't say what you're doing, but my problem with communicating my feelings is that I become an overwhelming waterfall that uses my partners AS a therapist, instead of just being emotionally available. It's fucking hard to know the difference between "I'm struggling at work" and "I'm struggling at work because *hour long story*" It's something that I'm still working on, and I'm taking a break from dating until I have a better handle on.
But believe me, figuring out the difference between being emotionally available, and having your emotions out of control and constantly on display is fucking hard, and don't let anyone tell you different. When we spend most of our lives by ourselves, not communicating with wider society, we miss a lot of social cues that are super important. Therapists help you put things together, and make up for all the socialization we missed as kids. Just remember not to hold anything back when you're with your therapist, as scary as that may be. Their job isn't to judge. You'll get there, man. Just keep trying.
