>>104637198Co-worker was dumped by his girlfriend. She packed up all her shit and left in the middle of the day while he was at work.
He broke down so hard I thought he was going to kill himself, I hung out with him pretty much every day for 2 weeks, got to know him much better than before. He told me a lot about their relationship. Turned out that they had dated in college, broke up, she moved to the city we live in, and he followed her and she took him back after two years. He told me god told him that they should be together.
Eventually I had lunch with her and she told me she was glad I was hanging out with him because she worried that he would kill himself. During lunch she started to ask me if I could do something on his computer and then stopped herself and apologized. I thought it was weird but then thought maybe she was just trying to delete naked pictures or something and didn't ask more.
I was going through some shit myself at the time and was glad to have his company. He's chill to hang with and I felt good to know that my presence was helping someone.
Way later I found out from friends that he was harassing her, sending her email after email from different accounts telling her it was god's will they should be together. He also did this during their first breakup, for two years. I found out that she was terrified of him but felt guilty about it. He had had sex with roughly against her wishes multiple times. He yelled at her. Her family was scared that she was with him.
He changed jobs and got really lonely, he used to invite me to hang out and go to events with him. I don't know how to act around him anymore so I usually say nothing. He had the traumatic death of a family member and I wanted to reach out to him but I just can't.
I don't know anon. He's not an evil cartoon character. He badly hurt another person, but he feels pain too. Should I value her pain or his pain? Is it better for him to have no friends? Fuck. I don't know.
