>>5964521So you went ahead and confronted the fear and accepted it. And then work your way up from that point.
Sounds down to earth and realistic quite honestly.
Tbh I was about to delete my vent rant post because I wanted to dissociate (again) but then it said it was to old for that lol.
Not regretting now though, because your response post feelt relatable and I came up with some sensible conclusions.
I realised that I fear people who
>hyperassume>invalidate others with their hyperassumptions>get defensive when their assumptions are challengedSo basically my parents.
So been thinking why do people hyperassume in the first place and the answer is mental laziness.
Assumption is a mental shortcut to substitute an actual opinion.
To form an opinion you need to:
>observe>analyze>draw conclusion>test the conclusion for validity or get back to step one in case it's falseAnd assumption is just vague observation and conclusion, usually with a sprinkle of self-serving bias.
Or it's even just an already pre-formed opinion that you can hear circulating.
Now what triggers me is that I am often mentally lazy too and form assumptions by skipping steps as well.
But I overcame that initial barrier with art, it's just that hearing someone hyperassume feels like I go back in time where I thought the same.
Especially triggering was my parents' hint of remorse when talking about me not having a "real job".
So they implied that my whole career was not real, just based on their assumption what is real or not.
So now that I know they are being mentally lazy, I can finally dismiss their opinions and begin to associate with my art.
Now I reckon crabs are actually mentally lazy too.
They skip cognitive steps and hyperassume to self-serve their interests.
Man it's easy now to dismiss them but confronting them is another topic perhaps.
