>>5892842I hate to agree with this
>>5892838 because it sounds terrible but I have to because it happened to me. When I was reading more of OP's posts it sounded exactly like the start of my situation. My mom got really sick and she needed a caretaker but I was going to college, I should've been working on starting my life and career. I ended up being a stay at home caretaker even though I knew it was the wrong choice. She needed a professional. But I felt guilty and she was afraid of being alone and everybody else in my family was turning a blind eye, and I was just a kid trying to make a huge decision about my family vs my future. It was only supposed to be a while but it ended up sinking a decade of my life into a progress hole where both mine and my mom's situations just got worse and worse because of course some inexperienced college kid couldn't support 2 people let alone one who needed a lot of medical care. In the end I couldn't save her anyway, I ended up homeless, and now I'm years behind the rest of the world heading into my 40's and starting to face health problems of my own.
So just take it as a word of caution. Wanting to help your family is an admirable goal but remember help comes in different forms. Don't let your mom become too reliant on you and avoid facing her own necessary pain of having to move forward and pick herself up. That isn't good for her or you. Support each other in a way that lets you both end up stronger. And remember that if separation has to happen it'll only be harder the longer you wait. My biggest regret is knowing things would've been better for both my mom and I had I not stayed and gotten my life together instead, because no only did I not help her, we both ended up deeply resenting each other.
Keep that stuff in mind OP and good luck.
