I tell the "they wanna be good but they're taught this behavior is ok" because as someone who used to take tumblr feminism too serious as a kid, thats how I got into it.
It's legit scary man, when you're there you feel like someone is holding you gunpoint all the time, waiting for you to mess up and fuck up your life, some people in there do it to make themselves look like "the good guys" and get praise and ego trips, others are pushed into doing it because if not they "may be bad too".
Is all black and white with them, and it's an easy way to brainwash people, is why I don't take 5 y/o tweets of lesbians saying "fuck all men!! death to the dick!!" serious if they haven't made that comment in years, because there's a possibility they where p much dragged on it as a way to cope or social pressure.
I don't even like to call myself a feminist anymore because of the association, wish we didn't went to the other extreme that bad.