>>3039575I had difficulties trying to classify myself as straight, bi or gay, and then I found out about romantic orientation.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Romantic_orientationIt turns out I was a fool when I tried to peg all the ways in which I like people as parts of my sexual attraction. I am a man, and attracted to both men and women, but they feel different to think about and look at.
The explanation that finally put my confused mind at rest is that I am likely a homoromantic bisexual:
Women awake my sexual interest basically right away, however, I am very poor at being romantic towards a lady: I can treat her respectfully, offer to pay for a dinner, have a conversation on various topics, but it is a tedious task to try to plan a date. I am ashamed to admit this, but it is hard for me to keep up my interest in a lady if she is uninterested in physical intimacy with me.
When I look at men, I can, of course, see right away if I like their looks. For some reason, I still at age 28 feel hesitant to think about sexual acts with most gentlemen immediately. Perhaps this is due to my relative lack of sexual experience with men. Usually, I find it necessary and much more pleasing to think what it would be like, if the gentleman in question were to take me for a date first: I like to imagine him picking me up at home at the agreed time. The kind sir would take me somewhere for a burger, afterwards he would order us sundaes. After dipping his finger into his own dessert and licking it clean, he dips it there again, and offers it towards me. I would be shamefully eager to lick it clean, and lean against his shoulder. After this fantasy or a similar one, I find it a lot easier to imagine being more intimate with the man in question.
Hopefully this image is in accordance with the rules and makes up for my prattling.
TL;DR: I became less sexually confused after reading the webpage I gave the URL to.
