https://wiki.evageeks.org/Theory_and_Analysis:Sexuality_In_Misato_and_Shinji%27s_RelationshipOnly if you're intelligent is it based.
otherwise it's incel retardation.
whereas, being a volcel(redundant) and knowing that women are attractive because of feminine characteristics, and thus the drawn representation is an ideal unreachable by natural women. It is trivial to know that one is superior to the other in term of pure adulation! however, transcending that carnality to adopting a waifu into your psyche will elevate one's existence as the one step further to idealism of a female body is marriage to that ideal.
Thus, with science and math we can determine, with the aspects of Freud's teachings, that Misato is the best waifu.
It's natural to be young and naive, thinking REI NOT ASUKA and wanting a generally younger or more dense waifu, but Misato satisfies a certain ideal rei and asuka don't meet. Maternalism. No one has a good relationship with their mothers. No one can be satisfied by ideal materialism.
And what is more valuable in an imaginary woman? A nature to compensate for your nature? or something that can be trivially amended like a body? Misato is a drawing, and idea, she can be physically changed to an even more ideal form.
And thus is the gateway into the perfection of a concept that transcends yourself.
It's given life within your mind to act who it should and not how you want, because that is the required nature for it to be ideal.
Hentai is a meaningful beginning, but at a certain point you should use your imagination rather than something imposed.
