>>12185882As always, the problem is nature vs nurture. In general it seems that women like to be lightly and implicitly dominated, but they don't like to be afraid. This goes to the nurture side, where your aggressive or abusive behavior connects with the tempaltes established in her early childhood, so she feels safe, secure, and needed in a clearly defined role and dynamic which she is familiar with. The fixer, the rescuer, beauty and the beast, the object, the scapegoat and punching bag, and so forth.
Males are susceptible to this as well, but it's just less commonly known and traced out in the piblic consciousness. In males, the same side of a simialr coin, or the other side, in some sense, it manifests as mommy issues. He tries to "kill" his partner (dead mother) so she will be dead and unresponsive to his behavior and emotions, like his mother was. Or to pamper and take care of him, or to support and remind him of how great he is, and so forth.
If you'[re actually curious about this, you should look into narcissism and codependency. The actual structure of it (and the other cluster Bs). I also think some of the cluster As are actually cluster Bs manifesting differently.
