Alright so I was looking at Gerph's Skarpe world series and then it got me thinking. Wouldn't it be a very good solution to the Fermi paradox if there are aliens are out there, and the reason why they haven't made contact is because Earth is basically an incel planet? There's the suggestion that we need to stop wars, and stuff like that to be worthy of alien contact but what if it's because we need to cure all STDs first and be more sexually attractive as a planet? It doesn't seem unreasonable to combine that with panspermia since a first born civilization would likely want to seed galaxies for potential sexual partners to ensure enough genetic diversity to survive in countless different worlds.