>>12092787>usually explaining the obvious parts in detail and skipping over the hard partsThat's because people rely on subconscious processes to guide themselves through the hard parts. It's impossible for them to explain the mechanics to you just like it is impossible for you to explain to someone by what means you identify a person as being person X (presupposing you don't suffer from prosopagnosia). This is true for a lot of things and problems related to these processes emerge if your natural/subconscious processing of the information given to you leads to undesired results. This is an actual issue and has little to do with intelligence. Many of the intellectually or mentally "retarded" are not actually "retarded". They're disabled in certain neurological core functions that do not actually relate to intelligence.
For the autistics, there's a variety of reasons why these subconscious processes may not properly work.
These include social dissociation and actual disinterest in socializing.
The failure to copy social behavior of others
The failure to acquire social templates, a collection of implicite sociocultural norms that "regularize" social interaction. For example it's known that autistic people have a rule- rather than template-based approach to social interaction.
Failure to anticipate the reaction of other people, especially in groups.
Failure to properly react to the action of another person. This includes failure to properly express the expected emotions and gestures.
Anxiety and stress.
The cognitive style of autistic people differs from non-autistic people. This alone will cause misunderstandings.
>>12092885>Learning social skills means making a lot of mistakes.You already get huge problems catching up if you only lag behind one or two years in your social development. This is because the others will start avoiding you, thus depriving you from the social stimulus you would need to catch up.
