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people are really complicated and those “red flags” can be coming from entrenched aspects of their personality or they can be coming from very changeable places like mental health issues/traumas. So yea they’re wrong. If someone has “red flags” but the self-awareness and capacity for change then you’re a bad person for disregarding them and chances are you aren’t aware of your own red flags. People who think they’re hot shit never are.
tl;dr date people with compassion and self-awareness, not perfect people.
although I will say in the case of women who tend to be attracted to men who are literally criminals and/or objectively awful human beings with 0/10 character (which is many, maybe even most of them) perhaps they shouldn’t try to think too hard.
