>>11514960if your ligands are in an octahedron shape, the octahedron-shaped d-orbitals (z^2 and x^2-y^2)get squished. They don't like being squished, so they rise in energy.
Meanwhile, the tetrahedral/cubic orbitals (xy, yz, xz) are less squished, so they stretch out and relax. This lowers their energy.