>>11198914It's the effort that makes it so different for different people.
For some people the effort is barely more than breathing. For most, it's about the same as a few days, at worst a few months worth of work. But for roughly 5-10% - it seems like -, that effort is the equivalent of decades upon decades of hard, brutal work for no pay at all... with nothing but the irrational hope that some day, hopefully before you die of old age, you might have a chance of earning that same little miniscule pay that most ohers did from a few days' work...
And then you wonder why some of those people, a decade or two down the line, stop working.
Of course sex is worth the effort, if the effort is minor. Or even something reasonable. But no rational person would sacrifice their entire lives, their hobbies, work, dreams, time, and money for a chance to get it on with a bunch of people who through all that sacrifice did absolutely nothing back but watch on in disdain and disgust.
Have you ever seen what happens to pets and children, who never get any attention, any love, any positive reinforcement or normal intimacy at all from their owners or parents? Are you aware of how fucked up, bitter, aggressive, and generally unhinged they grow up to be?
The bitterness, the supposed lack of effort of such people is not the cause. It is the effect. It's a very simple, natural, and sad reaction to being raised and treated wrong their entire lives. And it is not their fault.
Of course it's not the fault of the people who ignored them either. Random individuals cannot be expected to sacrifice their lives for the sake of someone else's need for intimacy and love.
Some things just happen without a real tangible cause, without anyone having to be responsible. It's bad luck, like being born crippled, short, ugly, dumb, or otherwise disadvantaged. Least you could do, is at least empathize.
