>>10888165ugh brainlets ITT. one way to think about it is by thinking about how the electron orbitals correspond to energy states. just like a ball chooses to roll to the lowest place and stay there because it is the lowest energy.
the electron “clouds”/orbitals attract the atomic nuclei and repel each other and quantum mechanics means they have to be spread out in space like a cloud with a particular shape. the attraction and repulsions try to find the configuration with the lowest energy just like a ball rolling to the lowest spot, or a bunch of rubber bands and slinkies connected can form interesting shapes if you hook them up in weird ways.
do you have a problem with the idea that the moon is stuck in its orbit because that balances the gravitational attraction with its centrifugal force? or saturn’s rings? or the atmosphere using pressure vs gravity?
molecules are analogous to those of you can into quantum
