>>3801726I perfectly understand what you're saying and know how you feel.
>No one I have ever known is simply "straight" and wants to snuggle up very close, like make physical contact and do anything at all really.I think this is because we lack a culture of platonic intimacy. Our culture and media only demonstrate sexual intimacy between people, and every action (hugs, kissing, hand holding) are implied to be between lovers. So I understand why someone like me is the odd one out because I don't view these actions as being sexual. I also don't view or read anything through a "queer lens" so I also don't see myself as asexual either, although I do embrace celibacy.
>my own limitation is in how I internally feel in the act of simple cuddling. Because it is not something that is remotely normal for me in my life with guys, just getting the cuddling for me registers in a sexual way unavoidablyThis is normal. And being with a loved one who makes you feel bright, happy and cuddly is normal. Our brains and skin receptors are telling us that we love this body contact and that we are receiving one of the most pleasurable experiences one can have. Without it, we become lonely, isolated, starved for attention. It's part of the reason why I try to advocate male-only spaces and talk about petting, stroking, and body contact in ways boys know how to (play-fighting, intimate teasing, etc). That said, I do believe you can have the warmth you desire once you figure out what it is you desire and find comfort within yourself and with a friend who shares your sensibilities. Hopefully you can have a relationship that is fulfilling and rewarding, as I do want the best for you.
