>be me
>BSc, MSc, PhD
>whole time as grad student my in-laws could not understand what I was doing, passively suggesting I should get a job, dismissing my plans and attempts to keep them informed on what I’m doing
>brother-in-law “James” works as manager of big box store, always tells me I need to get a job
>Start postdoc, turn down a few job offers the first year until the perfect job in the perfect location comes up
>suddenly my in-laws always knew I was going to be a success and are proud, “James” pretends nothing has changed and that I’m not starting at 6 figures, something he’ll never hope to attain
>James loses his job
>James goes through a few manager positions within two years
>James is now doing landscaping and odd jobs
>Father-in-law’s birthday coming up and everyone plans on flying in for surprise celebration
>James can’t afford it and his cunt wife won’t give him airfare, can’t ask his parents because it is a surprise
>James asks my wife, who stays at home with our child
>I magnanimously transfer airfare $$$ to James after asking how long before he’ll pay it back, he can barely look at me in the eyes over Facetime
>Before I hang up I tell him he should really try to get a better job
>Celebrate father-in-law’s birthday
>Mother-in-law thanks me in private for paying for James’ ticket, says she’ll reimburse me
>I say don’t think of it, James will pay me back
>But James really should get a better job
I know it is petty but 6+ years of their passive bullshit while I was working my ass off and I can’t help but rub it in.
>BSc, MSc, PhD
>whole time as grad student my in-laws could not understand what I was doing, passively suggesting I should get a job, dismissing my plans and attempts to keep them informed on what I’m doing
>brother-in-law “James” works as manager of big box store, always tells me I need to get a job
>Start postdoc, turn down a few job offers the first year until the perfect job in the perfect location comes up
>suddenly my in-laws always knew I was going to be a success and are proud, “James” pretends nothing has changed and that I’m not starting at 6 figures, something he’ll never hope to attain
>James loses his job
>James goes through a few manager positions within two years
>James is now doing landscaping and odd jobs
>Father-in-law’s birthday coming up and everyone plans on flying in for surprise celebration
>James can’t afford it and his cunt wife won’t give him airfare, can’t ask his parents because it is a surprise
>James asks my wife, who stays at home with our child
>I magnanimously transfer airfare $$$ to James after asking how long before he’ll pay it back, he can barely look at me in the eyes over Facetime
>Before I hang up I tell him he should really try to get a better job
>Celebrate father-in-law’s birthday
>Mother-in-law thanks me in private for paying for James’ ticket, says she’ll reimburse me
>I say don’t think of it, James will pay me back
>But James really should get a better job
I know it is petty but 6+ years of their passive bullshit while I was working my ass off and I can’t help but rub it in.
