Honestly, I kindof just make some of my things purposefully suck in some ways.
Like, I have some awareness of my flaws (laziness, fandoms), and some awareness of how this would effect others if I were in a leadership position, and sprinkle that in along with things I'm generally more interested in doing "well", and I feel like it kindof balances out the power fantasy while also making the whole thing seem more realized and creative.
And, what's more, if I think of a difficulty that makes sense for the thing I'm doing, I might not solve it all the way and settle for "good enough", because of those aforementioned flaws of mine.
... like, take Fraus, my Machine Planet (named for the sibling of Eris); I really kindof wanted to do an "It's easy to live on Fraus" kindof thing, because my chief concern is just having my people survive in relative comfort. I honestly don't want much more out of them, they're basically there for my amusement.
So they've got free food and housing and medicine and all that good stuff, and it's very easy to survive inside the metropolis.
But I'm also lazy and bad (read: not super interested) in infrastructure, so it's kindof low quality survival? Apartments are kindof just mashed together, and a lot of the buildings are disparate or poorly laid out. Food is usually of the type you just cram in your mouth and be done with it; there isn't a lot of impressive cuisine on Fraus. Medicine usually comes in pill form and there ain't much past that (but we have pills for damn near everything).
There's a high emphasis on escapist media (ESPECIALLY because I put the Ultimaguils from Gonna Be The Twintail in charge of entertainment), so there's lots of lights and flash and a disturbing lack of substance. Lots of moe anime, though.
And I kindof liken it to New Pork City, from Mother 3. Which is not actually a great place to be.
But it's easy for all my cute subordinates to live in, and you'll never be bored!
So that's my shitty dystopic utopia!