No matter what you think of TES as a series, you've gotta respect their artistic choices. A lot of them are pretty fucking righteous.
Hell, TES is the only way I've ever enjoyed playing as a Dark Elf in any setting.
As far as I'm concerned you need to look at the culture of your elves as much as their physical appearance. A major design change can completely transform how you or your players view them. For example, in my own world elves live in very hot coastal areas and have developed a distinctive Indian aesthetic, with rounded-top buildings, intricate tiles in almost all of their building work, and a lot of their weapons and apparel are very Indian influenced, so lots of saris, flowing pants and cloaks, point shoes, henna tattoos are a mainstay, and lots of floral patterns. To top it all off they are all fairly dark-skinned and very slightly more TES looking than DA4, so bigger, slightly unsettling eyes, longer ears, etc.
The there's my Drow, which live up in the high mountains. Because of their location I took much more of a Himalayan/Tibetan look to a lot of their stuff.