I don't think its about growing up, its about confronting the ideal and willing to accept that nobody in reality can live up to that.
However, that isn't to say that the ideal and what is represents to an individual can't help shape what a person's true desires are in terms of temperament and overall personality.
Star wouldn't want you to sit around pining for her. She'd want you to pull yourself up by your bootstraps and find real romantic love, even as risky as that is in this day and age.
She just wants you to be happy Anon.