>>94819677Like I said, neither of us are special in that regard.
I too have felt rejection at every turn, and not just with affection but with friendship in general. Sounds like that's where you are right now. Yes, it is true that we should seek to improve and that it can be hard at times, and yes, it is true that not everyone is obligated to like us. We all have our quirks and idiosyncrasies, and some will be bothered more about them than others. Sometimes, it feels like we will never be happy, that other people will always see you as a nuisance or something to avoid. The world is often cruel.
maybe I'm projecting just a little as I list off those troubles, but the end product, regardless of process, is often the same: a miserable person who has felt nothing but pain, and thinks that, no matter what they do or try, that is all they will ever feel. Rejection and pain.
It simply isn't true.
Take a chance.
It is often said that there is no comfort in the growth zone and no growth in the comfort zone, and when you're perpetually miserable, that misery, in a twisted way, becomes your comfort zone. I'm not asking you to magically turn your sad switch off. There is no such thing. Such a request would be presumptuous and apathetic. What I am asking you to do is to try. Be kind to those who have felt nothing but cruelty. Sit by someone who you know is lonely. No, it won't be a magical cure-all: Some people will see your outstretched hand as another attempted slap. Sometimes, people are just snobby, rather than lonely. That's okay. The good - those who appreciate your kindness, will make the bad worth it.
I've learned that sometimes, the best way to relieve emotional fatigue is to help someone who's even more tired.
