This, all the way this
but his relationship with Harley, if he should have one at all, should be extremely bipolar, like one minute he's a model boyfriend or husband, but once in a while he snaps. he cant be angry all the time or she would get pushed away, but he's also unstable, so he cant be the perfect husband. it should be
enough of a balance to have her be like:>"mista J is nice to me, I just shouldn'ta asked about his day."
and>"I just fell down the stairs"