>>78218417>However I do know several people that got into relationships like this and then get dumped when the person becomes self actualized and outstrips their partnerI, sort of, was the dumper. I'm still totally socially awkward and a mess and all that, but about a year and a half ago I started dating a girl who was a lot like me, except that she had tits and a vagina.
>both fat>both have trouble making decisions>both lazy>etcAfter about six months of being with her and basically having to "take control" all the time - literally she couldn't decide a single thing, not even where to go out to eat or even what to do when we're spending time together, I had to choose constantly, even when I gave her multiple choice of three things she couldn't pick something - and yet would always complain about my choices later, I had people I come into contact with regularly comment how I seemed more confident and assertive in a positive way, and I realized just how much she had been holding me back. She still guilts me about dumping her to this day, even though I was extremely nice about it.
I'm now with a woman who's got her shit together and is slowly helping me grow as a person. She's a big girl too but she's also stronk - she works for a shipping company and quite frankly could kick my ass if I ever did anything to make her mad - though she's extremely forgiving of my uncertainty when it comes up. She also loves to hike (not something I can do stamina-wise) and has convinced me to go for walks with her every so often, so I'm even getting more exercise with her than I would normally.