southerner here. If you want one, you literally just have to talk to them in person and show even the slightest bit of emotion. The places to find them are churches near mobile home parks (9am-12 noon), small scale swap meets, not gun shows (sausage fests), and tacky thrift stores. Churches (methodist, baptist, or "first church of christ" generics, not catholic) are, by a wide, wide margin, the best place to look.
There's a study overlapping fetishes with political compass results, and raceplay is exclusively a right-wing fetish.