>>116762891I've experienced the implosion of a good group because of someone who didn't want to conform to the norm.
I was playing d&d 4e (and some vampire) with a family member, a guy from work and three of their friends which I didn't know that well. Everyone had experience with tabletop except for one guy, the friend of a friend, who nonetheless was enthusiastic.
So it goes well and he have a really good time even though a lot of explaining is involved. The "new guy" starts to get into it, but after a couple of months he tells us that his gf wants to sit in because she thinks "spending one day every other weekend with the guys is too much".
So she comes in with him next time, makes fun of our game, behaves like a passive-aggressive cunt with remarks like "So THIS is really what you spend a whole evening on? You'd rather play pretend that be with me? Okay, alright sure okay". And she sits there playing on her phone until a couple hours into the game she says "Okay time to go" and basically forces him along after initiating an argument between them which kills our mood to play anyway.
The next time she's there again and our new guy has actually convinced her to try and play with us, which we reluctantly agree to because it's better than her being an annoying bitch about it. We take great care to provide her with various means of getting into it easy, basically cliffnotes and post-it notes so she can easily find whatever she needs and we go back to basics for her sake. Turns out she has never used her imagination a single day in her life because she has IMMENSE trouble with the idea of roleplaying, as in playing a role. After taking turns explaining how you have control of your imaginary character and the actions you do basically being like theatre for the sake of building atmosphere, she begins to at least go in-character when she's talking with NPC's, which we felt was a step in the right direction.
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