>>115312521It's a challenge. You have to actually go out and interact with people and hope to spark a connection with someone like that. Then you have to form some sort of social relationship with them, which is tricky, especially depending on your intentions. If you're too friendly and passive, there's a good chance she'll just see you as a friend. If you're too confident and pushy she'll get turned off and then you might not even be friends. You have to find that sweet spot and hope that you have enough charm to get their interest. (A lot of factors there including appearance, lifestyle, money, personality, character, etc.)
Sometimes you can spend a long time doing all that so you can maneuver it a bit easier but sometimes you have to be quick about it or the chance is just gone.
I've known a few girls like Spinel and they can be a lot of fun. They're full of energy and do the most unexpected things. You tease each other but it's in good fun and they either always know something fun to do or are excited for whatever adventure you've suggested. It's nice just taking a walk, shoving each other while you joke, before racing like kids to a bench coming into view, where the winner brags but you both laugh about it having a good talk there.
They're all unique though, with their own quirks and interests, so each one is there own experience; for better or worse. I've never been able to land one romantically long term, but they're still fun people to be around, even if you're not dating. (I'm know part of it's that I'm a pretty heft guy and I've had girls tell me they were interested in me but couldn't get past my fat.) But, if I can even get my foot in the door despite being a fat geek, I'm sure anyone can in the right circumstances.
It's just a mix of luck, timing, confidence, and ability.
There's a Spinel out there for everyone and I hope you find yours.
