traditional masculinity has been warped and twisted over thousands of years into being violent, aggressive, emotionally repressive, stunted, and distant or outright abusive towards your loved ones
like how many guys have their wife/girlfriend as the sole confident, if they have any at all, because they're terrified of showing vulnerability in front of their friends, parents, children, and peers because they've been raised in a culture where a man showing vulnerability is cause for ostracism
and so many otherwise well-off single men are living in absolute squalor because nobody instilled in them basic life skills like cooking, cleaning, fixing your clothes, maintaining a healthy diet, looking after your mental health, and reaching out when you need help
so all the work required for these things gets shunted onto their wife/gf, who is already heavily burdened with doing all that work for herself, leaving her too physically and emotionally exhausted to juggle all that and pulling double duty on being a parent to their kids, causing all those ares to lag and each generation of kids is turning out more mentally ill than the last and born into a more cold and uncaring world.
its not that being a man is bad or there's anything wrong with a man wanting to be masculine, but what it means to be masculine needs to be reconstructed from the ground up. and deconstruction needs to take place before reconstruction can
we as a species need happier, healthier, more open, more self-sufficient and more caring men
we are in the midst of a catastrophic extinction event thats a direct result of rich and powerful manchildren mindlessly pursuing their pathological need to feel invincible and that was shaped by the monomyth that the ideal man is a "stone cold badass" completely unaffected and stoic whose value is determined by how much wealth he can accumulate, how many women he can have sex with, how much destruction he can wreak and how difficult it is to emotionally move him