Never underestimate female shrewdness. That's how they get you by the balls.
No, women may or may not get certain topics based on whether the woman is smart or dumb, but they probably do grasp the basics of attractive since it isn't difficult and is highly relevant to their lives. They just do not necessarily care, because women follow one prime rule above all others: maximise security. If sacrificing their attractive to fit in better satsifses their security function better, then you bet they'll do it.
Remember: women are insecure and always want more of it. Men are no more complex in their own way, but you don't care about that because you're a man and not gay. Stay sharp.