>>103263785One of the more rare good Stephen Colbert quotes explains it.
He said something along the lines of there is nothing more trust worthy than having multiple people in a relationship.
Meaning if you are in a "problematic" monogamous relationship, feeling heart broken, hurt, betrayed or feel worthless when your girlfriend (never boyfriend) sees other people is no longer a valid feeling and expressing it is hurtful to poly people. If a boyfriend cheats though it's still shit. Toxic even. Mayhaps, even problematic.
Additionally, when poly relationships inevitably become progressive and mainstream, only poly relationships with a higher male percentage will be "healthy" and "non toxic" as opposed to a higher female percentage. Because what progressive wants to say a relationship with one man and three women is progressive? It has to be 2 men and 3 women, or 2 men and 1 woman, or even better, 1 white man, 2 c?o?l?o?r?e?d? ?m?e?n? men of color, and 4 c?o?l?o?r?e?d? ?w?o?m?e?n? women of color, one Chinese, 2 black women (black not brown) and 1 trans woman.