>>101941128>Kids benefit from a structured family objectively and broken homes tend to, you know, fuck people up in the long run.Right, but growing up in a family where the parents resent each other also fucks you up, because you learn to think that passive-aggressiveness (or straight up aggressiveness) and loathing and whatnot is a normal part of a relationship.
Seriously, I've talked to people who thought that part of "true love" is that the other person will time to time lose their temper and get violent, because they just "can't contain their passionate feelings", and actually if your spouse never smacks you about it's proof that they don't really love you, their feelings aren't real, it's all cold convenience. Because they grew up in a family where the parents explained the occasional violent disputes to the kids with that "sometimes you just feel so strongly" bullshit. Congrats, you raised a kid who believes that violence = true love. Good luck to them.
Similarly, there's a lot of relationships where people just sort of endure with shit partners who are constantly bitching at them, telling them off, verbally abusing them, displaying disdain and loathing, mocking them to their faces and mutual friends. Yet these people stay in these self esteem eroding relationships full of loathing and misery. Why? I'm willing to bet it's because they learned that model from home - that's what "normal" relationships are like, the needling and bitching is part of their parent's relationship too, that's just how it is.
I'm not so sure it's a good thing to teach your kid that "the right thing to do" is to endure through life stuck with a partner you kinda loathe, or at least don't respect.
