>>101041488Something similar happened to me. I met her while studying to take a four-year bachelor degree. It was my third year and her first, we got on great together and by my final year we had an apartment together.
So then I take my final exam and get ready to settle down and relax a bit, but I get offered a job only a few weeks after. I initially say no because it means I'd have to rent a place there since it's over a day's drive, and I don't want to be away from my girlfriend while she's still working hard.
But she encourages me to take it, she keeps saying I should. She asks me every day if I won't think about it, saying it'll be good for me and that by the time she'll get her degree I'll already have steady employment and she'll come join me.
I reluctantly agree since she starts to make all these plans, and I rent a small place near where I work. I come home to her most weekends but already after a month she's totally distant and not interested in any kinds of intimacy.
After half a year I learn that she's been fucking some other guy since before I got my degree and that she urged me to take the job so she could bring him over and stay in our bed for weeks at the time. Which also explained why she always wanted me to announce if I was coming back (although there was never any rush, she was doing fine). And I was paying for our apartment still, of course.
I confronted her about it and she told me that it was my own fault and that I deserved it for having taken the job, that I clearly don't wanted her since it had been so easy for me to take it. I reminded her that it was on HER urging I took it and that she had been cheating on me since BEFORE it ever came up, and none of those things were "even remotely related" and I was just "looking for some way to make it her fault".