buttsex is something men at any point in time have no control liking because of the existence of the prostate and the nerve endings on and in the anus. they can pretend they hate it, but have no choice but to enjoy it. anal stimulation is REALLY fucking powerful and if it was easier to do, men would never touch their dicks again.
the notion that ANYTHING having to do with the male ass is gay and thus bad is a purely christian thing. it still affects us today to the point where fooling around with an actual woman is still gay because she played with your ass. its really stupid. its like saying that getting a blowjob is gay and the reason is because gay guys like sucking dicks so getting your dick sucked is gay even if a woman does it. this little analogy should be enough and i hope you dont ignore it because its exactly what you guys are saying. luckily things are changing and men are finally able to express their interest in anal play, though for decades its been known that men buy tons of anal toys, its just that now its not so taboo.
surprise buttsex is never a good idea.