That's a different matter from what OP said altogether though.
Neo IS super duper special and important, he just has to train to harness his potential too.
Harley Quinn by all accounts isn't special. She's just unreasonably good at something for no properly explained reason.
What you're talking about has to do with writers being fucking morons, that think female empowerment means never, ever showing a woman struggle or dealing with any set-backs. Because they're hacks. Even that used to be different.