>>181721697>So can someone tell me if courtesans in Japan were seen as good wives to have?
In the late Edo period, yes. They were literally the idol-equivalent of their day. Only the wealthiest and most well-connected man could even get a drinking appointment with a high-ranking courtesan in one of the three great red light districts of the time, much less her deigning to actually have sex with him.>Was it possible for a high ranking courtesan to go off and marry a lord/daimyo if she wanted to?
Her choice was largely irrelevant. However, a daimyo or rich merchant could buy her contract to "free" her (as she was literally a sex slave as a social status) and marry her.
An ironic thing is that a lot of the old money (but not OLD-old, so post-Sengoku, but pre-Meiji) in Japan is literally filled with fancy whores in their bloodlines. It was the rich/famous person sort of thing to do, buying an oiran or the highest ranked courtesan they could afford and marrying her.