The first implication with what you said is that all lolicons are not pedophiles, this is clearly not true.
The second implication was that even if a lolicon does not consider themselves to be interest in the small bodies of little children in 3d form, it doesnt mean that is the case, it simply means they stay away from children.
The consensus generally, is that 3d kids are not like 2d kids see >>176286934
for the classic mindset. The idea behind this being that because the individual has never met a kid that acts in a way they find sexy, there is no kid that they will find sexy.
The only real difference between a lolicon and a pedophile is that pedo's seek out kids, lolicons have convinced themselves that just because they think the idea of a petite underdeveloped body being touched, fondled, and used by an older more related body doesnt mean any of that translates to what its being based off of.
This is simply ignorance. If the only reason you think you are a lolicon but not a pedohile is because a kid hasnt walked up to you asking to suck your dick, then im not seeing a real argument.